Ramadhan, Syawal & Me

Me & my brother Apan posed for Hari Raya 1980. Apan with his new traditional Malay costume. 

For Muslims, the month of Ramadhan is the month of spiritual reflection, improvement and increased devotion and worship. We are obligated to fast from dawn until sunset and to refrain from consuming food and drinks, smoking and sexual relations; and in some interpretations from swearing for 30 days. It sounded difficult but not at all when we devoted & sincerely to fulfill the obligation. I started fasting as early as 4 years old & by 6 years old I was able to complete my 30 days of fasting. It was a big victory for me. Yes, it was not easy for a child to carry out her obligation while others at her same age were still enjoying their ice-cream session & full of energy having fun at the playground. But it all paid out when Syawal month emerged after Ramadhan's ended. Eid Mubarak or in Malaysia we call it Hari Raya celebration. It's the month of family gathering, forgiveness, good food and children's favorite session ~ gift from the elderly in the form of money in the packet. Children will visit their relative's houses and neighborhood to collect packets of money throughout the Syawal month. It was a memorable & exciting month for the children...and me too!!! 

Mya Elisha & Arif Aamil Hamka posed for Hari Raya 2012...Apan's children

As time flies, my brother Apan got married with 2 beautiful children, Mya Elisha & Arif Aamil Hamka. They will now taking over the joyfulness of Syawal month by collecting that little packets during Hari Raya. Though they are too small to understand the importance of fasting but the spirit of celebrating Hari Raya has already in their heart as early as one year old. New clothes to wear in the morning of Syawal, good food like chicken rendang, packed rice, glutinous rice (lemang), peanut sauce & packets of money are the common for Hari Raya celebration. Though Syawal month is almost over, we appreciate it by visiting family & friends no matter near or far to build up the bonding closer each year....Happy Eid Mubarak to all dear Muslim  friends from all over the world!!!

Sleeping Beauty

My darling niece, Mya Elisha in October 2011

Apart from eat & shop, my favorite past time is sleep. Can't deny it but sleep is the best medicine to cure your restless day at work. I will definitely be in bed by 10pm on weekdays because for me, a good night sleep will make me an active person at work.

My darling nephew in May 2011

I will share with you on how to have a good night sleep for at least 6-8 hours per night:-

1) You must keep a regular sleep schedule by sleeping & waking up at the same time everyday. Like me, my regular sleeping time is 10pm and always up awake by 6am. Thus, I have a good 8 hours sleep daily. Also avoid taking your nap unless you you need to make up of few lost hours of your sleep

I am easily doze asleep even when travelling - March 2010

2) Increase light exposure during the day and set a dim ambiance by night time as melatonin in your body helps regulate your sleep-wake cycle. Melatonin production is controlled by light exposure, so brain will actively stimulate your mind to stay awake & alert. 

Mya is too tired to find a good spot to rest - October 2010

3) I believe in creating a relaxing bedtime routine by keeping noise down, on the air condition for cooling temperature and a comfortable bed and pillow. A consistent effort to relax & unwind before bed will give you a deep & fruitful sleep.

My cutie pie fell asleep on Aunty's shoulder - June 2012

4) We should eat right & get regular exercise in the day time. Avoid heavy meal before bedtime. Also to avoid too much liquid & caffeine before we go to bed. If you were too hungry, then take sandwich, cereal or a banana as you bedtime snack.

Both fell asleep after a long day with Aunty - February 2012

If you've tried the tips above and still struggling with sleep problems, you may have  a sleep disorder that requires professional treatment. Avoid using pills as they will bring side effects in the future. For me, a good sleep reflects a person with less stress, less problems & a happy mind!!!!!

Abah, You Are The King of My Heart

In loving memories ~ Othman Mansor (1943-1982)

Abah (dad) has left us for 30 years already. It was a tragic one to my family. He fell in the bathroom at about 2am then within  less than an hour, he was pronounced gone forever by the paramedic due to heart problem. He was 39 years old. I was 9 years old at that time. I couldn't accept the news & broke into tears in my cousin's arms, Kak Sham. It was the most unforgettable moment in my entire life. Lost the most closest person I have ever had. I was like his shadow. Being the first child in the family, I was very attached to abah & mak (mom) admitted it because daughter will always be dad's favorite. 

Although I had abah for 9 years, but the feelings of loving & respecting him are always in my heart. He was the best abah in the entire world. He was very strict in education as he was a lecturer by profession but he knew how to make his children having fun & laughter. Every weekend, after dinner, I will have to perform for abah & mak to watch while having cekodok (banana balls) and tea. I love to sing & dance. So that session was my favorite part. Sometimes I would perform with my cousins whom we invited over for the night. It was the best memories ever.

Abah, you are still my number one hero in my life. No one can replace you in my heart. I love you so much abah. All the memories are still fresh in my mind & I will treasure them till the end of my life. Happy Father's Day abah & to all the abahs in the world. My prayers are always be with you.....Al-Fatihah.....

Think Pink, Live Green

My day was full of sunshine until my casual conversation with my colleague in the afternoon turned out gloomy. She declared that she underwent diagnostic test after she felt pain & realized there is a lump on one of her breast. The doctor suspected it was breast cancer but the actual result will be out this Saturday. The sad part was when she received the news on her birthday yesterday, 13 June. Though I got to know her for less than a year but my heart breaks into thousand pieces. I felt so sorry for her. Her tear drops like the rain in the summer & I can see it through her eyes the sorrowfulness whenever she mentioned about her family.

When the news break within the circle of my friends, then I realized that this silent killer can attack to any of us no matter how well you take good care of your health. It is a lesson for me to be alerted on any minor changes. I started to browse for more info on breast cancer. Most of the sites advised to do regular screening. For those above 40 years old, an annual mammogram is advisable followed by MRI after 6 months. Regular check-ups will lessen your risk apart from your regular exercise, avoid smoking & alcohol & sufficient vitamin D. 

Diving at Perhentian Island, Malaysia in July 2012

So dear ladies, a gentle reminder to love yourself more than anything in the world. Try your very best to live life healthier. Eat healthy  fresh food & avoid grilled, barbecued & smoked meat. Don't be too long under the sun & use sunscreen. Use less cosmetics & avoid too much light exposure during night time. That very little action can turn into life savior.....think pink, live green.....

The Happiest Place On Earth

My darling niece, Mya Elisha & nephew Arif Aamil Hamka

It is the happiest place on earth. Children from all around the world dream to be there. Even adults too!! Happy faces are everywhere. Laughing, giggling, smiling....are seen at all faces. Once you got in, you wish that you will stay there forever. Yesss.....it is a happy land. Young o& old, boys & girls, mommy & daddy, brothers & sisters....all are having so much fun.

Disneyland Paris in October 2007

Thank you Mr Walt Disney for creating  such an extra ordinary amusement park that gives happiness to all visitors. I remember my first exposure on Disneyland was through a television show called The Mickey Mouse Club. Love watching a group of children singing M...I...C...see you real soon K...E...Y... why because we love you M...O...U...S...E... From that moment, I have always dream to visit Disneyland & meet up with Mickey Mouse :)

With Mickey Mouse at Disneyland Resort
Anaheim in July 2011

I think being a child makes you extra special because most of your wishes will come true. Yes, true enough. My wish came true in 1981 when my late Abah (dad) brought me & family to Disney World Florida for vacation (and I am still trying to dig out the photos for sharing :p). It was the happiest moment I have ever had. I felt that I was really dreaming when I met Mickey Mouse in person. No words can describe my feelings at that time.

Disneyland Hong Kong in March 2010

Well, now grown up and still I will not missed out any opportunity to visit Disneyland any where in the world. In Asia, there 2 countries with Disney signature which are Hong Kong Disneyland, Tokyo Disney Resort. Soon another Disney Resort will be opened in Shanghai by 2016. So far, I've been 4 times to Hong Kong Disneyland. Personally, the overall ambiance are similar but a bit smaller so 1-day is enough to walk around hehe

With Goofy at Disneyland Resort Aneheim in July 2011

So many activities you can do there like fun rides, photos with Disney's characters, shopping merchandising, watching parade & fireworks, band performances and many more. Of course it's a must for me to snap photos with all my favorite characters despite having to queue for hours. Also collecting my photo at the counter after my Space Mountain ride hehehe

Disneyland Resort Anaheim in October 2009

After each visit, I will definitely mesmerize all the things and fun  activities  that I have done in my little secret Mickey Mouse diary. I am blessed that I have that many golden opportunities to visit Disneyland. I will make another wish that to bring my whole family especially my sweet adorable little niece Mya Elisha & Nephew Arif Aamil Hamka to visit their favorite friends Mickey & Minnie Mouse in Anaheim LA soon :)

Cześć! Jak się masz?

The boys are counting hours to the 1st game of EURO 2012. Frankly speaking, I am not a big fan of football game but the ambiance & atmosphere during the tournament are tremendously colorful & cheerful even in Malaysia. It is a tradition for Malaysian to watch football with family & friends at Mamak (Indian Muslim) stall which is the most popular outdoor spot to hang out, eat, drink & laugh at top of our lungs without worrying about other people sit next to us. Furthermore these stalls operate round the clock, offer cheap food & drinks & big screen for football games.

Mamak stalls in KL are the hottest nite spot to hang out

Well, do you remember Paul the clairvoyant octopus that predicted the last European Championship & the World Cup in South Africa? His overall record from the 2 championships was 12 correct from the 14 attempts. Although now Paul is a history, he has a worthy heir, a Polish-based Indian elephant named Citta. I saw her in the news yesterday. She predicted the 1st game of Group A - Poland vs Greece. Human beings are such a craze. They tabled down 3 melons with flags on each melon. Polisg flag, Greek flag & banner proclaiming a draw. Citta confidently chosen the Polish flag as the winner. Let see tonight if Citta is as good as Paul :)

With friends watching Malaysia vs Singapore at National Stadium in July 2011

Since the time zone is a big gap between Europe & Malaysia, the fanatic fans definitely have to give up their sleeping time just to watch the games.  Most will come late to work, take emergency leave or even medical leave. Don't worry boss, this will only last for 3 weeks. Give them a break. It will spark them up after the tournament ends hehehehe So friends, plan your sleeping time watching the games :)

 8 Jun 2012

11:55pm: Poland vs Greece (Group A) - TV3, Astro Arena 801
 

9 Jun 2012 
02:45am: Russia vs Rep Czech (Group A)
11:55pm: Belanda vs Denmark (Group B) - TV3, Astro Arena 801

10 Jun 2012
02:45am: Jerman vs Portugal (Group B)
11:55pm: Sepanyol vs Itali (Group C)

11 Jun 2012
02:45am: Ireland vs Croatia (Group C) - TV3, Astro Arena 801
11:55pm: Perancis vs England (Group D)

12 Jun 2012
02:45am: Ukraine vs Sweden (Group D) - TV3, Astro Arena 801
11:55pm: Greece vs Rep Czech (Group A) - TV3, Astro Arena 801

13 Jun 2012 
02:45am: Poland vs Russia (Group A)
11:55pm: Denmark vs Portugal (Group B)

14 June 2012 
02:45am: Belanda vs Jerman (Group B) - TV3, Astro Arena 801
11:55pm: Itali vs Croatia (Group C)

15 Jun 2012
02:45am: Sepanyol vs Ireland (Group C) - TV3, Astro Arena 801
11:55pm: Ukraine vs Perancis (Group D)

16 Jun 2012
02:45am: Sweden vs England (Group D) - TV3, Astro Arena 801

17 Jun 17 2012 
02:45am: Greece vs Russia (Group A) - TV3, Astro Arena 801
02:45am: Rep Czech vs Poland (Group A) 

18 Jun 2012 
02:45am: Portugal vs Belanda (Group B) - TV3, Astro Arena 801
02:45am: Denmark vs Germany (Group B)

19 Jun 2012 
02:45am: Croatia vs Sepanyol (Group C)
02:45am: Itali vs Ireland (Group C) - TV3, Astro Arena 801

20 Jun 2012
02:45am: Sweden vs Perancis (Group D)
02:45am: England vs Ukraine (Group D)  - TV3, Astro Arena 801

Flower Power

Surprised birthday party by Marketing Dept FINAS in April 2010

Ladies are usually obsessed over flowers. We will expect bouquet of flowers delivered to our doorstep on birthdays or valentine's. They don't really care what type of flowers as long as the bouquet comes in a nice package. But I believe many of us prefer roses as it symbolizes love, beauty & passion. The colors also have different meaning like for example, red rose means love & respect; white rose means innocence & secrecy; yellow rose means joy & friendship. But guys, avoid sending yellow carnation which means rejection or orange lily which means hatred, or else you will be sorry hahahaha

Appreciating hibisus at Cameron Highland, Malaysia in June 2011

In general, flowers have been a symbol of beauty for most cultural in the world. For Malaysia, Bunga Raya merah or red Hibiscus was adopted as the national flower on 28 July 1960 by the 1st Prime Minister, Tunku Abdul Rahman. The Hibiscus was chosen because the 5 petals representing the Rukun Negara (National Principles) to unite the people & the red color representing the courage of Malaysians. Though hibiscus has no smell, but the this flower has many healthy benefits like hibiscus tea which is popular as natural diuretic & contains vitamin C and minerals. The petals & leaves are also use as hair treatment that make your hair grows shiny & healthy. In Pacific Islands, the petals are used in salad whereas in India are used as shoe shine. Wow!!! Such a wonder for such a little flower :)

Lovely flower pots at San Remo, Italy in October 2006

Personally, I believe that flowers emit aura & increase the positive energy. In Malaysia, many of us especially the Malays will perform mandi bunga (flowers bathing) regularly or at least once in their life time which is a day before their wedding ceremony. It was believed that flowers hold mystical powers that can enhance ones beauty naturally. For Chinese, they believe that peony is the flower fairies or king of flowers in which will bring luck & prosperity if it is hung in the house or office. Whereas for Indians, they will use flower garlands as part of the wedding ritual in exchanging the garlands between bride & groom. Also never give frangipani or white flowers to Indian community as they are are used at funerals only.

Giant flowers at Disneyland Hong Kong in March 2008

So many occasions in life that involve flowers like weddings, birthdays, funerals, dinners and many more which I feels that flowers play an important in our life. Flowers make us happy, cheerful & calm. Appreciate gardens that blooms with colorful flowers. Smells the flowers whenever you can. Decorate your living hall with fresh flowers. You will see the difference....its the flower power!!!

 

 

BFF

Ida & Lina celebrated my birthday at Istana Hotel, KL in April 2012

Best friend forever....the bonding & true friendship that will last forever no matter what happen, either one of them got married or far apart from each other due to work or family commitment. 

Zan from Singapore having lunch at Cannes, France in 2010

BFF is the one that listens to us when we need to pour out all our sorrowfulness. BFF offers  shoulder to cry on whenever we are feeling down. BFF cheers us up & help regain our positive perspective on life. BFF is important as having your family in your life.

Laurent from LA giving a tour at Griffith Observatory in July 2011

You will realize that once you grow older, you will have lesser friends. We will be more selective in finding true friends. Here are some tips that might be useful to be a great BFF to your loved ones :-

1) Trust each other

2) Be loyal

3) Spend time together 

4) Be a good listener

5) Care for each other

Believe me, it's a bonus when you are able to have BFFs in your life. Just a gentle reminder, if you have found a BF or GF, don't ever left out your BFF at all. They might be the first one to be by your side when you need one (after having a big fight with your BF or GF hehehe).....Cheers!!!!!

Free As A Bird

Sunshine at Santa Monica, LA in November 2010

"Free as a bird....it's the next best thing to be" I was listening to this song from The Beatles on my way back from work. Owhhh...how I wish I were a bird so that I could fly to anywhere & do whatever I want & whenever I feel like it. And yes free as a bird has a powerful meaning. For me, it means no obligations, no commitments, no restrictions, no limits and no boundaries. You can do whatever you want, according to your wishes and don't really care what you will gain from your actions. Well, in reality, you can't really be that kind of person. You are in the circle of people or community with rules & guidelines. We are bonded with religion, culture and regulations so as to ensure we live in peace & harmony.

Sunset at Santa Monica, LA in November 2008

Nevertheless, we can still make our life free & easy by appreciate things that are right in front of us, which are sometimes the hardest to see.  Let us appreciate & do things that are no longer been done by many of us:-

~ Smelling the flowers in your garden 

~ Playing soccer/football in the rain

~ Watching sunrise/sunset by the beach

~ Rowing a boat at the lake

~ Live painting at mountains

~ Listening to birds in the wood

I am flying like a bird at Perak, Malaysia in September 2006

 You may feel a little bit difficult to do all the above as you will think they are just not as important as other things in your hectic life. Believe me, these simple pleasures in life are too often overlooked but once you manage to execute them, you will smile & be one the birds that fly free up above the rest :)

Laughter Is The Best Medicine

My darling niece Mya Elisha & Nephew Arif Aamil Hamka with their  ibu (mom),
Sue having fun time during  their Singapore holiday  in 2012

It is common when people said that we will look younger when we laugh. It creates positive vibes & increase happiness in life. Do you think it is true or it is just a theory which has yet to be proven? I believe it is true because laughter makes us feel better and forget all the problems for a while. I have read a magazine sometime last year stated that when you laugh up to 15 minutes then you will burn up to 50 calories. Also for a 1 minute of a hearty laughter, you will reach a heart rate equivalent to a 10 minutes rowing machine. How incredible laughter can be right? So, try to laugh with family & friends at least once a day. Share fruitful conversation & funny jokes to create the laughing moments together. If you were all alone then try watching comedy movie, sitcom or read jokes in books & magazines. It's worth because it will release your stress, create  a joyful ambiance and enjoy a deep sleep during the night. Well, I did & hope will get a good night sleep later....Sweet dreams to all :)

Rice & Shine

Rice is the staple food for most Asian countries. In Malaysia, no matter Malay, Chinese or Indian we love to eat rice that served with dishes of meat, fish and vegetable. Without compromising on the calories, some of us eat rice up to 3 times a day - breakfast, lunch and dinner. So, you will not be starving when you are in Malaysia as we have 1001 varieties of dishes that  served with rice. Let me share with you list of my favorite rice dishes that are considered popular among Malaysian. 

Nasi Lemak (Coconut Milk Rice)

Nasi Lemak

The rice cooked in coconut milk with fragrant pandan leaves. It is  eaten with anchovies, peanuts.  fried chili paste, hard boiled egg or fried egg and fried chicken. This dish often eaten during breakfast or supper time.

Briyani Rice

Briyani Rice

Originally cooked by Indian community using high grade rice Basmati with spices. This dish usually eaten with fried chicken or curry mutton along with dhal gravy  and vegetables. This dish is nice to eat during lunch or dinner time.

Mandy Rice

Mandy Rice
This dish is originated fro the Middle Eastern countries. Similar to Briyani Rice. Using certain spices and eaten either with chicken, mutton or lamb.  Can be eaten with raw cucumber or carrot. Usually served for lunch or dinner.

Local Fried Rice

Local Fried Rice
This dish is usually cooked by mothers at home at any time of the day. Popular during breakfast because the left over rice from yesterday's is fried to ensure no wastage in their daily dish. It is often fried with anchovies and shrimp paste and very spicy.


Owhhh these pictures really make me hungry. They were taken during my meals at different places all over Malaysia. It is worth travelling for good food. Will share you with more food stories on some other days. Good food makes good blood....happy tummy makes a happy me :)

Wedding Bells

My parent's wedding in 1970

In Malaysia, school holidays  are synonym with wedding receptions. Most parents are busy entertaining their children for a short break as well as fulfilling invitations to attend wedding receptions from relatives and friends. For Malay community and being Muslims, marriage is based on Islamic principles with a blend of local customs. The wedding reception is full of colors and blessed by family members whom gather for celebration from all over the country.  

You've Got Mail

Waiting for my mail at Kowloon, Hong Kong in March 2007

Have you ever had a cyber relationship before? Well, it is interesting although it may be very risky because the relationship that  develops through the internet maybe illicit although not in all circumstances. That is the power of internet. It brought people so much closer together despite of the distance from anywhere in the world. At present, cyber relationship has becoming a norm as people are so obsesses with social networking platforms like Facebook, MySpace, hi5 and many more. Well, frankly...I don't really have anything against cyber relationship. It depends on you actually. How capable are you to handle relationship that  is actually don't exist for real. There is some public misconception that finding partners through internet is only for those who are desperate for relationships. But for some, it is the only way that they could find someone according to their criteria without fear of commitment as it creates a convenient atmosphere where busy people can meet those with common interests & lifestyles. Is the question how many succeed building up the relationship till death do they apart? Well Tom Hanks & Meg Ryan had done it.  So, why waste the technology challenge? 

Kathleen wrote an email to Joe in You've Got Mail:

~Sometimes I wonder about my life. I lead a small life. Well, valuable, but small. And sometimes I wonder, do I do it because I like it, or because I haven't been brave? So much of what I see reminds me of something I read in a book, when shouldn't it be the other way around? I don’t really want an answer. I just want to send this cosmic question out into the void. So goodnight, dear void ~

Wonders Of The World

Wondering at Colosseum, Rome in October 2007

My weekend was busy & fruitful with family activities. So, off from my blog for 2 days.Well, now I'm back on track...back on my laptop. While figuring out topic to share with the readers, I've just realized that school holiday has just begun in Malaysia. It is a relief for us as less traffic on the road for 2 weeks!! The holiday mood is on. Parents are busy planning for family getaways either going back to hometown visiting relatives or holiday trip to local destination or even abroad. I believe everybody loves holiday and travelling. If I were ever had the opportunity to travel, I would definitely will take  a 1-year off from work & travel to my dream destinations, to all the Wonders of the World (WOTW). Well, there are many categories of WOTW but the one with more than 100 million votes through internet & telephone falls under New7Wonders of the World initiated in 2001. They are:-

1) Chichen Itza, Mexico

2) Christ the Redemeer, Brazil

3) Colosseum, Rome

4) Great Wall of China, China

5) Machu Picchu, Peru

6) Petra, Jordan

7) Taj Mahal, India

Other finalists include Acropolis of Athens, Alhambra, Angkor Wat, Eiffel Tower, Statue of Liberty, Stonehenge, Sydney Opera House & Timbuktu. Well, let me see....so far I have witnessed & been to 3 Wonders - Collosseum, Eiffel Tower & Statue of Liberty. That's not a good sign...need more travelling & effort to visit those Wonders. Oppssss....yesssss Mak (Mom). I will oblige to perform Umrah (little pilgrimage) to the holy city of Mecca before thinking of travelling to those Wonders....Insyaallahhhhhhh 

TGIF :)

Family birthday dinner at Westin Hotel, Malaysia in October 2011

Friday is the best day of the weekdays because it is the day that gets you into the holiday mood. Everybody is excited & happy especially when clock ticks 5pm. Friday is the beginning of  a fun filled & relaxing weekend. So many things in my mind right now. Later tonight, planning for a belated birthday dinner with a friend, sis Wunny. Haven't decided yet where to eat but definitely to a place that is free from traffic because in Kuala Lumpur, horrible traffic begins on Friday evening. Considering I need to be out on the road soon, I've decided to share some of my favorite jokes for your pleasure reading on this joyful Friday mood. Enjoy reading & happy weekend!!!

Top joke in the world
Two hunters are out in the woods when one of them collapses. He doesn’t seem to be breathing and his eyes are glazed. The other guy takes out his phone and calls the emergency services. He gasps: “My friend is dead! What can I do?” The operator says: “Calm down, I can help. First, let’s make sure he’s dead.” There is a silence, then a gunshot is heard. Back on the phone, the guy says: “OK, now what?”

Top joke in the United Kingdom
A woman gets onto a bus with her baby. The bus driver says, “That’s the ugliest baby that I’ve ever seen. Ugh!” The woman goes to the rear of the bus and sits down, fuming. She says to a man next to her, “The driver just insulted me!” The man says, “You go right up there and tell him off. Go ahead, I’ll hold your monkey for you.”

Top joke in the United States
A man and a friend are playing golf one day at their local golf course. One of the guys is about to chip onto the green when he sees a long funeral procession on the road next to the course. He stops in mid-swing, takes off his golf cap, closes his eyes and bows in prayer. His friend says, “Wow, that is the most thoughtful and touching thing I have ever seen. You truly are a kind man.” The man then replies, “Yeah, well we were married 35 years.”

Top joke in Australia
This woman rushes to see her doctor, looking very much worried and all strung out. She rattles off, “Doctor, take a look at me. When I woke up this morning, I looked at myself in the mirror and saw my hair all wiry and frazzled up, my skin was all wrinkled and pasty, my eyes were bloodshot and bugging out, and I had this corpse-like look on my face! What’s wrong with me, Doctor?” The doctor looks her over for a couple of minutes, then calmly says, “Well, I can tell you that there ain’t nothing wrong with your eyesight …”

Top joke in Belgium
Why do ducks have webbed feet? To stamp out fires. Why do elephants have flat feet? To stamp out burning ducks.

Me, Myself & I

Me & my baby on the way to Frasier's Hill, Malaysia in October 2011

Since I started writing, I've shared 14 posts on various topics based on my experiences in life. I am glad that many have read & reached  1000 readers within 9 days. Majority are from Malaysia, USA & Middle East. Thank you readers for your support. Let me share you more about myself. I live & work in Kuala Lumpur, the capital city of Malaysia. It's more of a love hate relationship. Love the food, malls & hang-out places but hate the traffic especially on rainy days. Like many, I've always look forward for weekends and holidays. Cruising to popular  local destinations with my baby is my favorite past time. To beaches, hills, villages and anywhere just to scout for something different like food, culture & scenery. Hobbies? Well, hard to describe because too little time for my hobby session, scuba diving at my favorite dive spot in Perhentian Island, Malaysia. Just got back from there last month actually & wish I could stay there longer. Sports? Nahhhh....That's the ugly side of me. I avoid activities that make me sweat, unless if I got stuck under the hot sun or the air-conditioner is broken hehehe Well, what matters most is that readers enjoy reading my posts and gain some good tips from various topics. I am open to criticism, comments & suggestions on my writing skills, compelling topics and creativity to improve further on my Eat....Pray....Love.... (watch the movie, then you will see :p) Enjoy reading!!!!

Peace No War

Beautiful Berlin, Germany in February 2009

Malaysia is a multiracial country with population reaching 20 million consists of Malay, Chinese, Indian and other minor races which makes it unique and prosperous. I am Malay myself and I am blessed to have many close friends from other races without having boundaries between us. Language is not an issue because we speak Malay language and English as an option. But in life, those differences are not the main reason why some people or community tend to create disagreement or  argument with each other. A conflict sometimes started from a petty or simple conversation. While some were giving opinions that sadly end up into argument. If you asked me, yes I believed that there is a circle of people who live & make a living by creating controversial or sensational issues. It is pathetic but they do exist. They are pessimistic about life and usually have a poor outlook about themselves. That uncertainty will make them self-centered & unwilling to listen to other people's opinion. Well, to cut short they live in jealousy, dishonesty & infidelity even with their loved ones. So, what's best for us is to keep away from their circle, look for other positive circles that will lead us to peace & harmony. Like wise men say...only fools rush in!!! Peace No War....war is not the answer.....for only love can conquer hate :)

Two To Tango

Happy faces - My bro, Apan, sis-in-law Sue & their darling duo,
Mya Elisha & baby Arif Aamil Hamka at KLCC in June 2011

Husband & wife, father & mother, boyfriend & girlfriend....couples that are meant & deserved each other....sharing their love, pain, joy, sorrow, ups and downs. Every couple dreams of a happy & lasting relationship but sadly too many have failed to resolve the pain, sorrow & downs. What went wrong? I believe couples who managed to stay happy have the tools to keep the love & good feelings alive and work through problems fast before they went down the hill. Let me share with you some tips that might be useful in your relationship 1) Take a break from each other by spending time with good friends. Then you will miss and appreciate each other more 2) Learn more jokes and make your partner laugh till tears. It creates bonding as laughter is definitely the best medicine 3) Say "I Love You" only at special occasions or only when it is necessary to say. Believe me, your partner will sleep with a smile for few nights 4) Surprise each other with something simple yet meaningful on ordinary day. The impact will be greater 5) Listen to your partner's problem without interrupting. Then summarize & advise in a positive manner. Many more tips to be shared based on my experiences but will share them for other topics later. If you have good tips, share with us...after all sharing is caring :)

Break The Wall & Stand Tall

Graceful peacock at Avillion Port Dickson, Malaysia in July 2011

As a human being, we sometimes feel scared out of our wits & think of  how other people will perceive us. This happens when we have lost our self confidence that affected us beyond our control. I have been through that stage before. It was the beginning of my career. Well, at the of early 20s, just graduated, no working experience, bus ride to work, spending that little portion of salary to buy clothes only during Sale. Life was simple & moderate. I really enjoyed myself. But at work, adjusting myself to the new kind of environment was quite tough especially adapting myself to fussy & quick-tempered boss. I realized that when you faces that kind of situation, you will loss your self-confidence. Well...time flies...I've gained so much through my various companies in building up my self confidence. Let me give you some tips 1) Always dress-up sharp to work because it will carry your personality well 2) Walk fast with good heels shoes for ladies & leather shoes for men 3) Sit up straight with good posture, head up & make eye contact 4) Compliment your co-workers because by looking at the best in others, indirectly you will bring out the best in yourself 5) Always choose to sit in front & speak up by making effort to speak at least once in every group discussion or meeting. These are just some tips that you may think a bit cliche but trust me, it will help you to be noticed by your boss & co-workers in the positive manner. Girls....I think point no. 1 should be executed ASAP.....let's go shopping for some clothes at Zara and M&S  :)

Been There...Done That...

Diving team at Perhentian Island, Malaysia in March 2010

When I got stuck in the bad traffic, I've always imagine that I was actually somewhere else. A place that I can breathe the salty air, listen to the wave splash & get wet in the deep blue sea. How I wish I got stuck in an island rather in the bad traffic. Your mind will feel at ease at all time without worrying about the hustle & bustle of the busy city. Taking a break off from work twice a year  for at least a week is a smart thing to do. I don't usually plan. It will take me just less than a month to decide where to go for the next vacation. I even took  a short notice to travel on solo vacation to LA for about 3 weeks just to ease my mind. It was adventurous & fun travelling alone across the globe but not as exciting as diving in the deep blue ocean. You will be fascinating by the sea creatures & corals that welcome you anytime time of the day and night. Hundreds of colorful fish swimming along with you, turtles waving hello, sharks giving their best teeth smile, octopus dancing with the waves.....too many to tell over this little post. Come on just pack your bag, get a flight ticket & fly to your dream destination. Travelling solo this year perhaps????

Fat...Fast...Figure

Forville market at Cannes, France in October 2010

You must be thinking what on earth those 3 words relate to each other. For me they do jived well. Fat to those think that they gained weight & don't look good in their old dress or shirt. That's why to some especially the ladies are very selective in food and sometimes willing to go on a crash diet. No...no...no ladies....that's not the best solution to get in shape. Well, put aside your yoga, treadmills or whatever gym activities that can make you sweat. Let's try other options like the greatest natural healing therapy - fasting. It may sounds difficult to some but yes Muslim practice it once a year throughout Ramadhan month, no eating & drinking from sunrise to sunset. Yesss...purely breath the air for that almost 13 hours. But what I want to suggest here to is Juice Fasting.  It is a mild & effective cleansing plan as it requires minimum digestion while it supply many nutrients & stimulates our body to clear its wastes. It is also safer than water fasting because it supports the body nutritionally while cleansing produces better detoxification &  increase our natural resistance to disease. Let's try out this Juice Fasting for at least twice a week & you will feel the difference in a month & check out your figure....see the difference :)

Life Is Like A Roller Coaster

Enjoying rides at 6 Flags Magic Mountain, USA in July 2011

I love roller coaster ride. It gives me the thrill before, excitement during & satisfaction after the ride. I know not many have the guts to ride on but they should at least try once in  their life time. You can really scream as loud as you can & even cried till you drop and yet nobody cares. The thrilling part is the big drop then ups an downs all over again. Just like part of our life. We do have our ups & downs in our job, relationship or marriage. The worst part is when the big drop emerge in our life but it will definitely make us stronger & wiser as a human being. I've been through that roller coaster ride myself. But I believe mine is not as terrifying as others. At certain stage we may have to accept the downs with in an open mind & part of our sacrifice in life. This will lead us to be a better person, appreciate one another & value life before its too late. So, grab your ticket, wait in line, jump in the front seat & enjoy your roller coaster ride....SCREAMMMMMMMMMM

I Guess That's Why They Call It The Blues

With Elton John at Madame Tassauds Las Vegas in July 2011

Monday Blues...everybody is grumbling & groaning about Monday, not willing to let go the Lazy Sunday. Thinking of what to wear to work, waking up early in the morning, going through the bad traffic, dealing with new stacks of work and so on and on. I was in that circle of society whom hates Monday...yessss no doubt but it turn out to be different since I work in my new office early this year. It's funny to find myself looking forward for Monday & excited about the loads of work that need to be done. When I lay back & think of why there is no more Monday Blues for me, then I realize of one good reason....I am Stress-Free!!! Great boss, friendly co-workers, healthy working environment, interesting job and yessss....the most important thing is that surrounding with great choice of food. Talking about boss, oppssss he just came down to see me personally to say hello & how are things been doing (while I am writing this notes hehehe)...wowww...he seems to smell something fishy here...hahaha....it's ok boss, my work is done for the day....Nevertheless, Monday has always giving the heartache to most of us. If Mondays still kept on torturing you, then may be it's time for you to switch your career...believe me, you may be better off to new career with better pay & better prospect....I've done that & happy with my decision. So no more Monday Blues for me. Let's cheer everybody up today & sing along Elton John's I Guess That's What They Call It The Blues.....